Being Okay with Being Enough

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All of my life, I have held myself to incredible performance standards which propel me far but not as far as I know that I can truly go.

I cut myself off at the knees and think things like, “Well, those things worked because you were fortunate. Don’t go any further or people will see you for who you really are.” That last part… That fear of being “exposed” has haunted me my whole life. It has affected everything from personal relationships to passion projects. Remember Real Women Give?

So, this year, I decided to center my heart on the idea that I am enough. Period. I decided that I would live out my dream, love harder, and give more in 2017 because I am enough and I have enough. I believed those words in my heart and soul until last week. In an unexpected moment, everything seemed to crash on my shoulders. BAM. Suddenly, I felt like I being “enough” wasn’t going to cut it.

How did I get to that point? I couldn’t see it in that moment but I realized that I opened myself up to comparison. I got lost scrolling through my timeline on Facebook and suddenly felt so incomplete and insignificant. Looking through post after post of perfect families, incredible friendships, glamorous trips, and more made me feel like nothing that I was doing was adding up. Of course, I recognized it as an attack from hell, but it was so real! Real and scary.

So, how did I bounce back? First, my husband told me reassured me that everything would be okay. Second, I chose to replace the negative thoughts in my head with this scripture.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” – Hebrews 12:1-2

You see, I took my eyes off of my own lane, started looking at what everyone else was doing, got tripped up, and fell flat on my face! God calls each of us to our own specific purpose and destiny. I had to remind myself that I am enough to run my own race and when I fail, God’s strength will push me along.

Shirt: The Human Woman muscle tank, $22 (Everlane.com). $5 from each item in this collection benefits Equality Now.

9 Comments on Being Okay with Being Enough

  1. KaBrianne
    May 26, 2017 at 11:10 am (4 weeks ago)

    Exactly! I know that social media is curated but that still doesn’t stop the comparison monster. Lol. It’s a journey though… Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. KaBrianne
    May 26, 2017 at 11:09 am (4 weeks ago)

    Thank you again for reading and sharing, J!

  3. KaBrianne
    May 26, 2017 at 11:09 am (4 weeks ago)

    “Comparison is the thief of joy and I know that very well in my soul.” Girl, this! I am praying for the day that I can be content with my own lane and story. I know that is the key to unlocking God’s true plans for my life.

  4. KaBrianne
    May 26, 2017 at 11:07 am (4 weeks ago)

    Yay! Yes, I am back on the wagon. Thank you for the encouragement, boo!

  5. Ishea
    May 22, 2017 at 4:11 pm (1 month ago)

    Karyn! Glad to see you back blogging.

    It’s so easy to get caught up in social media highlight reels and forget that people are choosing to share highly curated moments of their life. I appreciate your honesty and transparency that it’s human to have moments of self-doubt, but share ways in which you’re able to strengthen yourself and have that reality check to know that you’re enough!

  6. Jameka
    May 22, 2017 at 3:59 pm (1 month ago)

    It’s hard to accept that we.are.enough!!! So glad you wrote this!

  7. Jessica
    May 22, 2017 at 10:57 am (1 month ago)

    Thrilled to find this post on my IG feed. Thank you so much for writing this reflection and posting it on this day. It spoke to me directly. Life is full of moments and they can all at once be humbling. Comparison is the thief of joy and I know that very well in my soul. I also know that our path yields the gifts and bounty with the seeds we sow. Keep good things and good will come out and expect the regular thrill of God’s “surprise” blessings because if you believe it, there it will be for you on your own beautiful path. Much love, Karyn!

  8. Dee Dee
    May 22, 2017 at 10:16 am (1 month ago)

    First, I can’t even tell you how excited I was to see a new TFG post! But second, and in all seriousness, you are way more than enough Kare Bear! Focus on you and what it is you want to accomplish and just take it from there. We all have our own paths and lanes and yours is just as bright as anyone else’s. xo

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