Lately, I’ve been all about creating lists and mapping out my life. Things can get a little chaotic, and I like to make plans (even if I change them later or never get started on them). The other day, I was thinking of the various volunteer activities that I would like to do one of these days. So, that inspired me to create a “do gooder bucket list.” It may sound odd, but I think it’s a good idea! I’m still in the process of adding things, but here is where I’m at so far.
SALE alert! Today only, you can save 20% AND score free shipping on the FEED x Target collection online only. I’ve been stalking this collection for a while now and have chosen my four things that I want right now.
Have you snagged any items from this collection yet? If not, better get on it soon! This is a great way to help provide meals to families in need while getting some cool pieces for yourself, for your home, and as gifts.
Does being selfless and doing good work wonders for your well-being? Well, according to a recent article, it does. I can’t verify the science but I can tell you conversely that being selfish makes me feel awful. And, BOY, have I been selfish lately. It usually starts with a desire to self-preserve and then I look up and I feel terrible. Last night, I had a come-to-Jesus (or whoever you choose to reckon with) meeting with myself and was able to clearly link my anxiety, stress, irritability, and overall bummed out-ness to the fact that I had tipped the scales between an outward focus and an inward focus. I stopped really thinking about anyone but Karyn. No volunteering, no blogging, no do-gooding. Just doing me which usually meant that I was doing nothing.
Do you remember my post about the book “29 Gifts” and the author, Cami Walker? That was essentially the premise of the book. She was so focused on herself and in the throes of her own pity party when it was suggested that she give gifts to friends for 29 days. It worked for her, lifting her spirits and reminding her of what was really important in life.
I had entered that space that gives me the willies. I was being “The Selfish Giver.” It felt good at first to be a little self-involved, but that quickly faded. I need balance. I need to be altruistic. Helping others is a reminder that this world is much bigger than me.
Does giving back or volunteering help you balance your moods?
P.S. Need more healthy reasons to give back? Check out this article.
I think about caregivers on a regular basis. I think about their strength, their sacrifice, their service, and their spirits. So, when my friends at the American Cancer Society asked if I would join in their 100 Caregivers Stories series, it was a no-brainer! I’ve never been shy about talking about my caregiving experiences with my mother and am currently working on a webinar series to address the unique needs of youth caregivers.
Although I have since transitioned out of that role, I’m still honored to be surrounded by so many amazing people who have stepped up to provide care to a loved one battling cancer or another disease.
I think of my bonus mom, Angie, who somehow is able to juggle her career with caring for her mother who is living with Alzheimer’s. I think about friends who recently lost parents to cancer after lovingly (and sometimes painfully) watching their superwoman succumb to the illness. And, I think about a young woman that I know who not only cared for her sister with cancer, but also stepped up to support her sister’s daughter.
Caregivers are so incredibly valuable for so many reasons. There are economic, societal, and health benefits to caregiving but, above all of that, caregivers remind each of us we are all connected. To every person who has ever been a caregiver or is one right now, here’s a short quote that will breath a little life into you on your worst days…
Patience and fortitude conquer all things. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
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As a part of the American Cancer Society’s 100 Days/100 Stories series, the 100 Caregiver Stories series wants to shine a light on 100 amazing caregivers by the end of 2013. I am a member of the ACS’ Blogger Advisory Council. No financial compensation was received to publish this post.
As news stories continue to pour out of Oklahoma, it’s clear that the this ordeal is far from over. It’s such a sad situation and I am sending much prayer to everyone affected by the tornado, especially to the families of those who have lost a loved one as a result.
Huffington Post has compiled a list of ways that you can help. Check it out here.
Nine days ago, I took a BIG step towards completing a huge goal of mine. I walked in the 2013 Commencement Ceremony at my alma mater, University of Illinois, in celebration of my almost-completed* Master’s degree in Health Communication. Being down there brought a wide range emotions from joy to periodic sadness. The joy came from being back in Chambana. The sadness was a result of wishing that my Mother could’ve been there with me like she was in 2005 when I received my undergrad degree down there. Throughout all of the various emotions, the most powerful one was pride. I was am so proud of myself for really sticking with this program, even when I wanted to do everything else BUT study or read.
Class of 2013!
Completing my degree was the first thing that I’ve been able to cross off of my 30 Before 30 list and now I’m fired up to keep checking things off! A personal challenge of mine is closing the deal and following through on my brilliant ideas. Part of that has been fear, but that’s behind me. It’s all about moving forward.
With one journey wrapping up, I’m already on the prowl for a new one to begin. That’s the good thing about life. If you wait long enough, there will always be another path to create, another story to write, or another journey to begin. What are you in the process of creating? What would you like to start? There’s no time like the present to make it happen. Trust me. There’s NO greater feeling than completing a challenge.
I’m a living witness.
*Once I complete my capstone research project this summer, my graduate studies will officially be completed.
Two of my fav fab givers recently teamed up to bring us a handbag that I’m sure will be a summer staple in my wardrobe. On the inaugural edition of her new online magazine, The Life, designer Rachel Roy announced that she and FEED co-founder Lauren Bush Lauren collaborated on a limited edition FEED tote created to help fight hunger in India. For every tote sold, 100 school meals will be provided to children throughout the country.
Rachel Roy and Lauren Bush Lauren with the new FEED India totes ($78).
Mother’s Day is around the corner and this can be a challenging time for those of us who are currently navigating life without ours. Next Thursday, May 9th, Bright Pink is hosting a yoga class where young women who have lost a mother or have a mother battling breast cancer can celebrate and honor them. The class will take place at their Chicago office (670 N. Clark St. Suite 2) and it begins at 7pm.
This is one of many Experiental Outreach activities that the organization hosts throughout the year. The Face-to-Face Experiential Outreach Groups are essentially support groups that happen within the context of fun activities like yoga or pottery-making. After the activity, attendees are invited to participate in a discussion related to being young and at high risk for developing breast/ovarian cancer.
If you’re interested in joining next week’s session, you can send your RSVP to Mary Kate Fitzgerald at MaryKate@BeBrightPink.org. The event is free, but it is BYOM (Bring Your Own Mat).