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29 Gifts

Shifting My Focus Back to Selflessness

KB's Journey

Does being selfless and doing good work wonders for your well-being? Well, according to a recent article, it does. I can’t verify the science but I can tell you conversely that being selfish makes me feel awful. And, BOY, have I been selfish lately. It usually starts with a desire to self-preserve and then I look up and I feel terrible. Last night, I had a come-to-Jesus (or whoever you choose to reckon with) meeting with myself and was able to clearly link my anxiety, stress, irritability, and overall bummed out-ness to the fact that I had tipped the scales between an outward focus and an inward focus. I stopped really thinking about anyone but Karyn. No volunteering, no blogging, no do-gooding. Just doing me which usually meant that I was doing nothing.

Do you remember my post about the book “29 Gifts” and the author, Cami Walker? That was essentially the premise of the book. She was so focused on herself and in the throes of her own pity party when it was suggested that she give gifts to friends for 29 days. It worked for her, lifting her spirits and reminding her of what was really important in life.

I had entered that space that gives me the willies. I was being “The Selfish Giver.” It felt good at first to be a little self-involved, but that quickly faded. I need balance. I need to be altruistic. Helping others is a reminder that this world is much bigger than me.

Does giving back or volunteering help you balance your moods?


P.S. Need more healthy reasons to give back? Check out this article.

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29 Gifts and My Personal Challenge

KB's Journey, Living & Giving


A couple of weeks ago, I was surfing and came across a clip of Cami Walker on The Today Show. Cami was on the show to talk about how the recommendation of an African healer led her to give 29 gifts in 29 days as a way to cope with her recent diagnosis of multiple sclerosis. Let me get this straight. A young woman living with multiple sclerosis was going to talk about the power of giving? I had to watch…and in the process, I had to pray that I wouldn’t burst into tears particularly because I work in a room with four other people.

Listening to Cami, I heard her tell a story that I’m all to familiar with…Young women just beginning their path into adulthood, marriage, or parenthood suddenly find themselves trying to understand and live with a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis. It was my mother’s story. Cami was diagnosed one month after her wedding day at the age of 33. As she navigated the difficult physical and emotional changes, she received some advice from a friend of hers who was an African healing woman. Her friend told her to give 29 gifts in 29 days. The reason why? “By giving, you are focusing on what you have to offer others, inviting more abundance into your life.” *church hand*

As Cami gave, she noticed that the positivity and selflessness that she gave to the world was reciprocated in ways that she couldn’t have imagined. At the end of her interview, I was intrigued, motivated, and a little teary-eyed. A colleague of mine recently asked me why I was such a good person. I told her that my giving spirit is motivated by my mother. In the midst of her health battles, she always found room to give to others, to care, and to share. For that, I believe that God kept a special eye on her and her family. And, that is the kind of grace that I want to have over my life.

Cami’s story hit home for me in the realest way, so I decided that I needed to read her book 29 Gifts: How A Month of Giving Can Change Your Life AND take on my own 29-day giving challenge!

If you want to follow along with me, be sure to check out my page on the 29-Day Giving Challenge Ning site, as well as Twitter and here. I will tag any tweet related to my challenge with the hashtag #29days. I hope that you’ll stick with me as I take this on head first and walk into the new year with a new mindset.

Please check out to learn more and you can watch Cami’s Today show appearance below.