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Grace Is the Best Birthday Gift of All

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 6:9

When I came across this passage, I knew that I wanted to set my heart on these words for the month of October. Grace is a concept that I’ve always been aware of but never really knew how to set it in motion.

Does it always work?

Is grace just something that God gives to me?

Can I give grace to others? How?

Earlier this year, I read Emily Ley’s book “Grace Not Perfection” and it really helped me understand the idea of grace as something that I could (and needed to) extend to myself. I’ve talked about my life as a recovering perfectionist before. I looked to perfection to control everything. And, as life brought challenging circumstances and painful emotions my way, I tried to lean even more into perfectionism as the solution.

You know what happened?

I felt these deep feelings of shame, embarrassment and disappointment because I just could not keep it all together.

Only within the past six months have I started to release those feelings. I’ve learned how to truly give grace. First to myself and then to others. My journey to freedom started the day that I decided to extend grace to myself. 

I realized that because I couldn’t do that for me, I couldn’t do it for others. Not only was a judging others harshly for disappointing or hurting me, but I was doing the same thing to myself.

There was a passage in Emily’s book that has never left my memory or my heart.

Choose gratitude and grace every morning. Grace and gratitude go hand in hand.

I come into my 34th birthday in an extremely grateful place. This place could only be made possible by God’s grace. To say that I am looking forward to this next year of life would be an understatement. I am expectant. I am excited. I am enough.

I know that it’s my birthday but here is my wish for you.

Make room for grace.

It is truly the gift that keeps on giving… No birthdays needed.

My August Powersheets Goals

August Powersheets Goals 2017

How is it already August?! Knowing that this is the last month of summer makes me sad because I can’t believe how fast it flew by. More importantly, I feel like there are so many things that I didn’t do yet this summer.

Last month, I didn’t get around to going through my Powersheets like in previous months but I did set a couple of high level goals for myself that I did accomplish. They included:

  • Getting to the gym at work ten times – This is a new record for me AND it means that my next month’s fee will be 50% off.
  • Picking out new living room furniture – FINALLY! We found a sectional and chairs that we love.
  • Having a successful Galvanize Chicago event – I never did an official recap on the blog, but I posted quite a few pics on Instagram from the weekend. Nearly 1,000 women packed McCormick Place for a weekend about leading and advocating for change in policy and within our communities. It was AWESOME.

KB with Valerie Jarrett at Galvanize Chicago

With Valerie Jarrett and Commissioner Kari Steele (right) at Galvanize Reception

While I am proud of those accomplishments, I know that I could have checked off a couple more things. This month, my focus is maximizing my output without the burnout. This concept doesn’t just include work-related tasks but also relational ones as well. I’m challenging myself to have meaningful conversations, put my efforts behind things that truly matter, and throw my heart into my home and marriage.

August Powersheets Goals 2017

Here is my tending list for the month.


  • No sugar – I’m not doing a complete Whole 30 this month, but I do want to drastically reduce my sugar intake.
  • Social media-free weekends (2x) 
  • Date night with Chris – We didn’t have one in July but hoping that we can get one on the books soon.
  • Organize a diaper drive – More on this soon!
  • Update living room with new furniture
  • Ten visits (or more) to the gym at work – As mentioned above, this goal has dual benefits – physical AND financial.
  • Plan Cupcakes and Chicago for Red Pump


  • Post 2-3 times – I am in a creative season so I want to bring some of that energy to my blogging.
  • Meal plan – This is another goal that has multiple benefits. I’ve done this successfully for the past two weeks and don’t plan on losing momentum.
  • $25 eating out budget during the workweek – While I plan to make my own meals during the week, I also know that things happen. This is my CYA fund, in case I forget my lunch or decide to grab Starbucks in the morning.
  • Call a friend 
  • Write in my gratitude journal
  • Have our family meeting


  • Drink 80 oz of water
  • Spend 15 minutes with a devotional and talking to God
  • Walk at least 7,500 steps
  • Complete my daily cleaning task – I’ve created a small list of tasks that I can do for 30 minutes in the morning and in the evening to help me manage the housework at home. This goal is about keeping my sanity while also creating a beautiful space for my family.

August Powersheets Goals 2017

To keep me on track, I am planning to do #TendingListTuesday, which is something that I heard about in the Powersheets Facebook group. By checking my list every Tuesday, I am making sure that I am staying focused on my goals and making adjustments as needed.

What are your main goals for this month? Whatever they are, I am praying that you have the mindset and stamina to take them on full steam. Let’s do this!

My June Powersheets Goals

Welcome to June aka summer time! Well, at least if you are in Chicago. Last month, I didn’t set any official goals in my Powersheets, but I did commit to some things so May wasn’t a total wash. That being said, I set some intentional goals for June related to parenting, fitness, faith and relationships. While May ended on an incredible note, the middle weeks were a little all over the place. Without having a clear sense of what I needed to accomplish, I was flying by the seat of my pants as far as what I was and wasn’t doing. That is not what intentional living looks like!



Finding Peace and Sun in Biloxi

Last week, our family left rainy Chicago in search of sunnier skies on the Gulf Coast. My oldest stepson graduated from high school down there so our trip was the perfect excuse to celebrate his accomplishments, catch up with my husband’s family, and honestly just whoosah.

Leading up to the trip, I was burnt out to the max from work and some other tasks on my plate. I have been saying “Yes” to too many things, people, and projects. And, it finally took a toll on me. Honestly, I’m still in “generosity recovery,” but that’s another post for another day.


How One Bra Is Helping Restore my Body Confidence

ThirdLove 24/7 Classic T-Shirt Bra

Last week, I was showered with love and fuzzy feelings as I celebrated my second Mother’s Day. Motherhood has brought me so many incredible moments but I have to admit that I am still struggling with some of the physical aftereffects of carrying Caleb.

Thanks to Whole 30, I’m below my pre-baby weight, however parts of my body just aren’t the same as before. One of the biggest insecurities had to do my how poorly my bras fit post-baby. After breastfeeding, my girls just weren’t themselves anymore.


Being Okay with Being Enough

Human Woman Shirt from Everlane

All of my life, I have held myself to incredible performance standards which propel me far but not as far as I know that I can truly go.

I cut myself off at the knees and think things like, “Well, those things worked because you were fortunate. Don’t go any further or people will see you for who you really are.” That last part… That fear of being “exposed” has haunted me my whole life. It has affected everything from personal relationships to passion projects. Remember Real Women Give?


Spring Refresh + April Goals

Desk setup for setting spring goals

Welcome to April! Knowing that we are on the verge of spring temperatures has me feeling super energized and ready to knock out some major goals over the next three months. I’ve been using Powersheets to help map out my year. In 2016, I had the tool but didn’t use it like I should have. However, I’m doing MUCH better this year. One of the things that I like most about the Powersheets are the 3-month refresh pages which allows you to take stock of the prior months and what you did or didn’t do. This refresh also helps with assessing whether or not your annual goals need to be tweaked.


Looking Back at My First Whole30

Whole 30 changed my life and relationship with food. Here's my recap.

Last fall, I became a believer in Whole30. I’m talking “Omg, why didn’t I do this sooner” kind of believer. I made the decision to do Whole30 after my manager started sharing some of the benefits that she’d been seeing since starting it. As she rattled off things like less headaches, less bloating, better sleep, and looser fitting clothes, I became even more intrigued. But, the true kicker was when she told me that Whole30 isn’t a diet. Say what? However, it’s true.


On Your 1st Birthday

Dear Caleb,

Today is your 1st birthday. I hope and pray that this is just the first of many celebrations in your honor. This past year, you have taught me how to love, how to be patient, how to care, how to pray, and how to truly smile from my heart. You are the sweetest baby that I have ever met and I am not just saying this because you are mine. Your spirit and energy lights up any room that you are in. Your eyes remind me that God is real and so is a mother’s love.



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